Heterosexual born on (the), Gay (le) or bisexual (the)? Becomes one? A curious question as does a desire to become an identity, but the pathways of our sexual preferences with its diverse influences us all. Questions to Stéphane Clerget, psychiatrist.
Freud said that everyone was born bisexual. Can one be homosexual and heterosexual at the same time?
Stéphane Clerget: Yes. Neurobiology and also leads to this conclusion. In fact, our sexual preferences and erotic behavior are the result of a slow learning. But it comes with the possibility of falling in love and enjoy both sexually with a man with a woman. Then, each in his emotional and sexual individual will establish its own mapping of preferences whose synthesis will be a homo or heterosexual orientation.
This means that one can, one morning just have a desire for a person of the same sex or it may mean that we have hitherto camouflaged his true desires?
S.c.: Both are possible. It may, during development, to consciously or not, in the cellar of our feelings of being rejected desires. And when a life event (bereavement, birth, menopause, depression ...) that will rearrange our 'home' psyche, these desires will reappear and be able to live. Desires have been processed as desires love in early childhood for the same sex who turn into friendship. These changes are sometimes reversible. Finally, there is the astonishing power of love that takes them by surprise, and has enough force to deflect a usual way. The human brain has a neural plasticity. This means that connections between neurons are not static. This explains that our preferences in love and sex, as in many others, evolve and change switch train our desires are possible.
Many studies attempt to demonstrate that homosexuality is innate. The debate is not over ...
SC: In my book, I quote the main studies that have been suggesting innate origin to show that at present, can not say that sexual orientation is set in stone by our genes. And I studies that prove otherwise. Such a discovery would also contradict the changes in sexual orientation in life and bisexuality!
Freud said that everyone was born bisexual. Can one be homosexual and heterosexual at the same time?
Stéphane Clerget: Yes. Neurobiology and also leads to this conclusion. In fact, our sexual preferences and erotic behavior are the result of a slow learning. But it comes with the possibility of falling in love and enjoy both sexually with a man with a woman. Then, each in his emotional and sexual individual will establish its own mapping of preferences whose synthesis will be a homo or heterosexual orientation.
This means that one can, one morning just have a desire for a person of the same sex or it may mean that we have hitherto camouflaged his true desires?
S.c.: Both are possible. It may, during development, to consciously or not, in the cellar of our feelings of being rejected desires. And when a life event (bereavement, birth, menopause, depression ...) that will rearrange our 'home' psyche, these desires will reappear and be able to live. Desires have been processed as desires love in early childhood for the same sex who turn into friendship. These changes are sometimes reversible. Finally, there is the astonishing power of love that takes them by surprise, and has enough force to deflect a usual way. The human brain has a neural plasticity. This means that connections between neurons are not static. This explains that our preferences in love and sex, as in many others, evolve and change switch train our desires are possible.
Many studies attempt to demonstrate that homosexuality is innate. The debate is not over ...
SC: In my book, I quote the main studies that have been suggesting innate origin to show that at present, can not say that sexual orientation is set in stone by our genes. And I studies that prove otherwise. Such a discovery would also contradict the changes in sexual orientation in life and bisexuality!
Even if one does a small part in the innate, why?
SC: Because it is possible that a particular genetic factor promotes sexual orientation. For example, the physical aspect of a child will make those around him will find it more or less feminine and therefore look differently. The same goes for anything that might affect temperament especially recognized as more or less masculine. But the way we, or the environment will harness the skills related to our genes influence our direction.
What do you see as the main explanations of the theory of acquired?
SC: Whether homosexual or heterosexual, is the pursuit of pleasure by stimulating the body's erotic guide behavior in humans. The individual will gradually discover its area of enjoyment and the means to stimulate. We are not prisoners of programming instincts. Love, in humans, chaste or sexual, it is learned. Sexuality is not separable from the whole person. The development of our way of loving emotional bonds resulting from conscious and unconscious with our surroundings, experiences and encounters, parental wishes and unconscious and conscious of their history, education received, how to pass the different stages psychoaffective of the oedipal organization, conscious choices whether or not the child. There are also physical hazards, family, social, cultural, which will promote or prevent certain procedures for attachment and erotic behavior. Homo or hetero, we go through the same stages, we do, during development the 'cruise', but we do not retain the same memories.
The role of parents intervene in children homosexuality?
S.c.: Yes. They affect all parts of the construction of the child. They are models that the child will imitate or to which it will take against the foot. They are fed an imagination, desires, sacrifices that the child will collect and integrate or not to hers. They will want or fear that their child does not make choices. And the child will decide to follow the desire or fear .... Influence does not mean they can control the future orientation of their child because the child made his choice, if not at the cost of breaking its overall development.
Are there any emotional wounds that guide the child, the youth to homosexuality?
SC: The injury, or worse, injuries, may lead an individual to waive certain ways to love, but both hetero homo.
You say to a teenager, homosexuality fulfills the function of taking away with the mother. All the boys do not react as well. What triggers this' decision '?
SC: There is no single way to become like hetero homo. Everyone has their journey. Some women feel threatened and can find in gay relationships a "virilization. This is transitional or they take taste. But others face this threat can find in their family or friends for emotional support sufficiently masculine. And all do not live this kind of threat.
If the parental model is of importance, the image of a homosexual couple can have an influence on the sexual orientation of the child?
SC: Yes, like all models of parental couples. But not necessarily in the sense that we believe ... The homos have been bred for the most straight couples. Parents are also gay conformist than others and have the same desires as others. A child can identify with the desire of his mother pushed for a hetero woman, but also the desire of his father returned homo for a woman. However, gay foster parents very often, unbeknownst to them, the homo desire that their child will want to explore this mysterious continent that both frightens and trouble his parents.
SC: Because it is possible that a particular genetic factor promotes sexual orientation. For example, the physical aspect of a child will make those around him will find it more or less feminine and therefore look differently. The same goes for anything that might affect temperament especially recognized as more or less masculine. But the way we, or the environment will harness the skills related to our genes influence our direction.
What do you see as the main explanations of the theory of acquired?
SC: Whether homosexual or heterosexual, is the pursuit of pleasure by stimulating the body's erotic guide behavior in humans. The individual will gradually discover its area of enjoyment and the means to stimulate. We are not prisoners of programming instincts. Love, in humans, chaste or sexual, it is learned. Sexuality is not separable from the whole person. The development of our way of loving emotional bonds resulting from conscious and unconscious with our surroundings, experiences and encounters, parental wishes and unconscious and conscious of their history, education received, how to pass the different stages psychoaffective of the oedipal organization, conscious choices whether or not the child. There are also physical hazards, family, social, cultural, which will promote or prevent certain procedures for attachment and erotic behavior. Homo or hetero, we go through the same stages, we do, during development the 'cruise', but we do not retain the same memories.
The role of parents intervene in children homosexuality?
S.c.: Yes. They affect all parts of the construction of the child. They are models that the child will imitate or to which it will take against the foot. They are fed an imagination, desires, sacrifices that the child will collect and integrate or not to hers. They will want or fear that their child does not make choices. And the child will decide to follow the desire or fear .... Influence does not mean they can control the future orientation of their child because the child made his choice, if not at the cost of breaking its overall development.
Are there any emotional wounds that guide the child, the youth to homosexuality?
SC: The injury, or worse, injuries, may lead an individual to waive certain ways to love, but both hetero homo.
You say to a teenager, homosexuality fulfills the function of taking away with the mother. All the boys do not react as well. What triggers this' decision '?
SC: There is no single way to become like hetero homo. Everyone has their journey. Some women feel threatened and can find in gay relationships a "virilization. This is transitional or they take taste. But others face this threat can find in their family or friends for emotional support sufficiently masculine. And all do not live this kind of threat.
If the parental model is of importance, the image of a homosexual couple can have an influence on the sexual orientation of the child?
SC: Yes, like all models of parental couples. But not necessarily in the sense that we believe ... The homos have been bred for the most straight couples. Parents are also gay conformist than others and have the same desires as others. A child can identify with the desire of his mother pushed for a hetero woman, but also the desire of his father returned homo for a woman. However, gay foster parents very often, unbeknownst to them, the homo desire that their child will want to explore this mysterious continent that both frightens and trouble his parents.
