After explaining the differences between female desire and male desire, Dr Catherine Solano, renowned sexologist, shows us how it is possible to reconcile.


Can a man and a woman who form a couple may have sexual impulses at the same time?
Solano Dr Catherine: Yes and no. In fact, over a relationship, two people did not focus exclusively sexuality. This is not necessarily the priority in their lives. Sexuality, when it works well, does ultimately have little place in the thoughts of a person balanced. So we are not more hours per day in the impulse. And as our impulses are necessarily different, it is normal that we are not being sex drive perpetual or very frequent.

However, it is very pleasant to have simultaneous impulses. But in the long term, this is not spontaneous, it is cultivated. It may very well know each other better, and organize an environment that provokes reactions drives at home or at another, for example, some women are preparing a candlelight dinner, some couples go out together, because they know that the environment will be conducive to their sexuality. Other people read the new erotic to feed the internal sexual energy. Let's say we can seek to feed their impulses.


But if it still has the same drive and the other not, this can cause problems?
Dr Catherine Solano: When it is a problem, it is most often the man who feels this impulse and the female. This poses several problems, mainly due to the fact that we do not understand the functioning of the other sex. A woman may feel that he wants, he has a pulse, he or she wants to make love, but he wants it. But what she wants, it is a desire more relational and less impulses. If despite this expression, it may seem not to be sophisticated and have an animal side too. But it is clear that the advantage of functioning rather male, it makes a lot of energy to the sex life of couples. And it's not because a man has sexual impulses he dislikes his wife, or that he does not want it in particular.
Some men feel that their partner does not want, because it is essentially a desire for answers, not a desire impulses. Because they have difficulty understanding that his desire is more relational. Yet just as rich, because his desire she brings depth to the relationship.
If both accept, and it gives great wealth to the relationship.
If both seek to change each other, it is rather negative. It tries to make it work the way impulses, and tries to make a desire to live more relational.

However, both are capable, provided it does not change! A man who sees his desire pulsionnel accepted, valued, feel much more love in a better relationship with their partner.
A woman who sees her desire more relational feel more accepted in love and wants her man more ...

In total, we are very compatible, but if we doubt, we may oppose the differences instead of taking them as assets.